Divorce has a different effect on children than it does on adults.  Being a daughter of divorce changes your world differently than being the parent that divorces.  Part of your childhood is taken away from you.  I am not a daughter of divorce, but, I have listened to my daughter, and step-granddaughter about the effect of divorce, and how their sense of safety, peace and innocence about the world is stolen from them.


Doc and I, feel it is so important to teach the next generation about who they are, and despite the message of failure that this broken world throws at them,  they are important.

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I typically, speak to women who have experienced a failed marriage.  Whether they are a single mother trying to understand why the marriage failed, or a young woman in College, trying to understand her parent’s decisions; both are looking to God for help.


But, there are Sons of Divorce as well.  Boys who have had their life stolen because they felt and unreasonable responsibility to care for the home at too early an age.  They feel thrown into adult life for which they are not equipped.  Many times the result is a sense of failure about him because; they could not care for all of the things that dad use to do.


Low self-esteem is not God’s best for man, woman, or children.


I want you to know today, that God wants to heal you of this.  You were never meant to carry this; and, now you are an adult, still caring around a little girl, or little boy’s sorrow.


This is not God’s best for you.


He has a gift for you, which you have not opened yet.  It is the gift if healing in this area of your life.


Do you have back issues?  I believe that sometimes we will have a physical manifestation of a spiritual issue.  Back pain might be indicative of caring a burden that God never meant for you to carry.  He wants to have that burden and give you a light load to carry for him.


He says to you, “lets trade – let me carry that!”


When your healing comes, tell others of what has happened to you.  Your witness may be the very one that allows them to see that God is real, and run to him for their healing.


This is fulfilling Matthew 5:16 – “So let your light shine so that others will see your good works and glorify your father who is in heaven.”


At one time people would tell of God’s work at the city gate, or on a street corner, or perhaps in a church service.  These places of testimony are still done today.  But you, – You have a new place of testimony.  You are the witness who is the blogger!


Blogging gives people all over the world, the ability to see, and glorify your Father in heaven!


“Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved.  And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in the whole world as a testimony to all nations, and then the end will come”  (Matthew 24:12-14)


I believe that this Bible verse is talking about you and this generation!  You were created to give testimony at this particular time in life!


Divorce is never God’s perfect plan for anyone!


God in His wisdom has woven the imperfect into the perfect, He has made you, in this life, as a witness for HIM. (tweet this)


What you see as a disaster in life, God says, “I’ve got this!”  And turns what was meant for evil, and to destroy you, into a two edged sword to fight for others, with the power of the Word.


When you Blog about the mighty works of God, You are a witness with a two edged sword! (tweet this)


Let me encourage you today.  Your life is not a disaster.  Your birth was not a mistake!  You were created for this time! Today, begin telling of God’s work in your life so to encourage others and bring God the Glory!


May I pray for you?




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Diane W. Bailey is the founder of The Consilium – an online community of wisdom and purpose for women over 45 years of age. She is a published author. Her books include String of Pearls – From Tears to Treasure, and 30 Days To A Better Stepfamily. She creates her own line of precious metals bracelets. Diane lives in the Deep South with her husband Doc. Together they have created a stepfamily, each having two stepchildren and two birth children, and share three grandchildren, one black lab named Charlie and one long haired tabby cat named Lil Girl. Diane’s passion is to encourage women to be all God has created them to be by pressing past fear and daring to live life as an adventure. Some of her life adventures include traveling to Israel, speaking, entrepreneurship and backyard farming with Doc. She loves Gumbo, fried shrimp and seeing all sunsets across water.

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