Are you a leader?  Do you see the whole picture?  Can you tell others what to do and where to go and how to live – the right way?


Some say, leaders are born.  I was born as a leader, that doesn’t mean I was a born leader.  I was just the first born of my siblings.

As first-born and the leader of the pack, I am instructed in the actions I should take to bring us all together.


“Get your sister’s hand, and help her to the car.”


“Bring me a diaper, please.”


“I need you to set the table, while I cook.”


“You took Geometry last year, go and help you sister with her homework.”


There were times I was left in charge while mother went to the store.  Sometimes I was a good leader and played games or  told them stories; and, sometimes I enjoyed being bossy with the authority I had to rule.


One time, when I was left in charge, my best friend Cindy and I were going to make a cake for the children to eat.  At some point we lost our minds and got into dumping garlic salt on each other.


I thought we had it all cleaned up.  But when my mother came home I was in trouble.  It seems a little birdie told my mother what had happened while “big sister” was in charge.


Little sister was concerned that I would try to get even. I think she slept with one eye open for days.  The fear of my revenge was greater than any consequence I could have inflicted; so, I left it at that.


But good leaders are not born.  Good leaders are trained.  They understand life with God.  They understand how to be in good relationship with others.  They understand how to hold a door and allow others to go first.  They listen with wisdom and understanding, then ask question, instruct, and advise.


A leader, a good leader knows how to study others.  They see the character and integrity of others, and find a place for them to flourish.

When a good leader is in their place they understan that, it is not about glory; it is not about popularity; it is not about class; and it is not about race.  It is about educating others in the way of the Lord, and helping them to live a life that is productive and glorifying to the Lord.


A good leader is the ultimate servant.


The plumb line is a good leader’s most valuable tool.  Not to measure those under their authority as to their uprightness, but to measure him or her self in relationship to God’s uprightness.


A good leader, knows that she does not know all there is to know, and seeks God in all things before making decisions, or speaking to those who are looking to her for guidance.  All the glory goes to God.


Being concerned about being popular is a death sentence for any leader.  Holding on to all of the control so that everyone must come to you, will drive you into the ground, as well as those around you.  A good leader delegates responsibility according to the ability and integrity they see in others, allowing God to reveal these qualities in those under the leader’s care.


A good leader brings together people for a common vision, regardless of race, social position, economic strength, age, or sex.  She seeks the best in everyone.


She doesn’t keep her circle of influence exclusive.  Her doors and arms are opened wide.  Everyone seeking community she welcomes, knowing some may betray her trust, some may disappoint, some will become like sisters, and all will be loved and brought into the circle of her influence.


“Welcome, Honored guest”, is her greeting at the door.


Because true leadership is the art of serving others.

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Diane W. Bailey is the founder of The Consilium – an online community of wisdom and purpose for women over 45 years of age. She is a published author. Her books include String of Pearls – From Tears to Treasure, and 30 Days To A Better Stepfamily. She creates her own line of precious metals bracelets. Diane lives in the Deep South with her husband Doc. Together they have created a stepfamily, each having two stepchildren and two birth children, and share three grandchildren, one black lab named Charlie and one long haired tabby cat named Lil Girl. Diane’s passion is to encourage women to be all God has created them to be by pressing past fear and daring to live life as an adventure. Some of her life adventures include traveling to Israel, speaking, entrepreneurship and backyard farming with Doc. She loves Gumbo, fried shrimp and seeing all sunsets across water.

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