God has recently been telling me, “Give it away” and that is just what I am doing! I’ve invited some beautiful souls from my favorite Facebook community for women in the 50+ season of life, The Consilium: a Gathering of Wisdom and Grace. Enjoy the words from their hearts and, if you don’t mind, would you leave a comment to encourage them? Feel free to join us over at The Consilium – we would love to see you there!


I’d like for you to meet Martha Brady:



photo: Martha G. Brady

photo: Martha G. Brady

Today, I got a rude awakening. I’ve been in a bit of a funk lately. Internally, I’ve been complaining about my aches and pains. Finding the positive side of aging has been more and more difficult.

I was reading Kara Tippetts’ blog and as I listened to the video post on her page, I was pulled back into reality! Yes, I am fortunate. I am blessed to be living to be an old woman.

It isn’t always easy, particularly when I look in the mirror. But I have been very blessed indeed!

Kara, in all likelihood, will not live to see her children grow up. Cancer is rapidly ravening her body. It has not damaged her spirit and soul for sure. The process of its journey as well as her journey of faith has been written in her book as well as on her blog.

Today, she spoke specifically of her jealousy of older people! I don’t think of myself as someone to be envied, but of course I am.

I get to see the outcome of what I have done…for good or bad

I get to see some of the results of my child raising…the good, bad and ugly! I also get to the see the results of GOD’s grace and His intervention in the lives of my children to bring them people and experiences that I couldn’t.

I can never thank Martha, Terree, Consuelo and others who would take my girls out for fun activities during their teen years; who showed them that singleness isn’t something to be dreaded; that marriage to a Christian man is worth waiting for…if GOD’s plan for you is to marry.

I can never thank the wonderful Sunday School teachers and school teachers, who modeled Godly lives for them along the way. Not all did, but enough did that they discovered Christianity was real and genuine.

And the professors they had in college! They helped them see Christ as well in academia. I couldn’t do it in the ways they did. They built on what we were able to do at home.

And the godly friends they found along the way…as well as the ones who needed Jesus. Each one taught them something more about Jesus, what they were learning about their faith and themselves, and what they wanted their lives to look like in the end.

I have gotten to see each of these stages. I have been able to observe GOD working in each of my children. Raising children has been nothing like what I expected. In many ways, it has been much better.

Instead of deciding on the blueprint I had for each child and how she needed to turn out…as I thought it would be. It has turned into watching GOD work in each life as He sanctified them AND me. In the process of changing us, He is making them into women who are growing the Kingdom for His glory.

Kara won’t have the choice of growing old like I have.

It is a gift…a luxury.

Growing old is not without its pain and sadness. There is no question. But there is joy as well. None of us has control over how long we will live, how healthy we will be, how we will die. We only can deal with how we react to what GOD gives us today.

We get to rejoice as we watch GOD work. The journey our children take is not always straight and simple. Rarely is it. Whether it takes 20 years or 40 or longer than our lifetime, we can still hope in GOD to work in their lives and the generations after us.

We can love them unconditionally…whether thay go in the way we want or not, we can still love them.

We can rejoice that we have a gift as we age. It is called “today.”

We aren’t promised tomorrow.

What are you doing with the gift GOD has given you today?

Are you learning to give Him the regrets of the past to carry for you?

Are you asking Him and others to forgive your failings and sins against them, moving forward in faith that it is done?

Come to me,

all who labor and are heavy laden,

and I will give you rest.

Take my yoke upon you,

and learn from me,

for I am gentle and lowly in heart,

and you will find rest for your souls.

For my yoke is easy,

and my burden is light.”

Matthew 11:28-30



photo: Seth Schaeffer

photo: Seth Schaeffer

I’m Martha Grimm Brady. I’m staring in the face of 70! Just a couple more years and I’ll be there.

I’ve been married 46 years to Ron, a retired pastor. We have raised 3 daughters, 2 of whom are in their 40’s! I can hardly believe it. We have 7 grands, 2 boys in the group.

I’m an RN, an epileptic (since age 20), an MK, and someone who has moved often enough to know that I hate moving! We lived in Jamaica for 7 years early in our marriage. Our daughters were born there and our lives were changed in many ways by living there.

Fl, TX and IL have been our homes. We now live in AL near one daughter and family. My blog is GrittyGrace.com. I’ve been blogging since 2007.

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Diane W. Bailey is the founder of The Consilium – an online community of wisdom and purpose for women over 45 years of age. She is a published author. Her books include String of Pearls – From Tears to Treasure, and 30 Days To A Better Stepfamily. She creates her own line of precious metals bracelets. Diane lives in the Deep South with her husband Doc. Together they have created a stepfamily, each having two stepchildren and two birth children, and share three grandchildren, one black lab named Charlie and one long haired tabby cat named Lil Girl. Diane’s passion is to encourage women to be all God has created them to be by pressing past fear and daring to live life as an adventure. Some of her life adventures include traveling to Israel, speaking, entrepreneurship and backyard farming with Doc. She loves Gumbo, fried shrimp and seeing all sunsets across water.

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