To this day, neither of us can remember how it began. Did I comment on her blog first or did she comment on mine? Either way, we consider it a divine-online connection. Susan Stilwell lives in Virginia and I, in Alabama.


Susan would laugh at me later, because I would not tell her a lot about myself. I guess I was afraid she would break into my house with her Visa card and steal my good shoes! We still laugh about it. Soon I opened up and shared from my heart.


God was up to something and the edges of the bigger picture have still not been fully seen.



Before long we were talking about our common places in life. Things like aging parents, empty nests and aching joints of middle age… A friendship made in heaven.





The online conversations began to grow more frequent as we made plans to open our hearts, and a facebook page, to those who were also empty nesters and looking for a community online.


Years before you could never convince me that friendship and ministry could ever happen online.


But God knew.


Words like Online Ministry, and Networking became common phrases around our house.


We Google searched for a community to join whose focus was women 50 years of age and older, but could not find what we envisioned in our emails with each other.


But God knew the plans He had for us.


It took several attempts, and three years, for us to get a vision for what God was calling us to do – An Online Ministry for women who were 45 years of age and up.



We decided to create the online community we were looking to join. We soon realized God was calling us, these two He introduced online, to reach out and minister to women using technology instead of teacakes. We would not be ministering in church space, but in cyberspace.


We found that women over the age of fifty were more technologically savvy than we realized. They no longer drove the car pool, or lead a Girl Scout troop, and were now looking for a new place to give their time and talents.


When children leave home for territory of their own, there is a time that women pine away, longing for the community they once knew on the ball field and at dance practice – A place to sit and talk.


When parents become the children, it is difficult to adjust. Our parents have needs we never imagined of those who were once our first understanding of God. We all could use the understanding of someone who has some similar experiences – a gathering of other women who encourage each other through difficult decisions.


Susan and I knew this was the ministry God was calling us to create.


It was not long before a third, divine-online, introduction was made. A woman named Bonnie Wallace who was in the same place in life with the same passion for women’s ministry.



The three of us talked for a year before God opened the doors for, The Consilium – A Collective Of Wisdom And Grace to be created. Technology had provided a way to reach women in their second phase of life. We were thrilled to see women from all over the world who were lonely, or struggling or simply looking for an online community.


Technology is an amazing tool we have to connect us to the world. In the wrong hands it can do much harm.


Technology in the care of those with a pure heart, can become a way to extend the hands of Christ further than our own small community.


So tell me. How does Technology benefit your walk with Christ?


Linking today with The High Calling.


Photo credit -Tim Miller for The High Calling


The following two tabs change content below.
Diane W. Bailey is the founder of The Consilium – an online community of wisdom and purpose for women over 45 years of age. She is a published author. Her books include String of Pearls – From Tears to Treasure, and 30 Days To A Better Stepfamily. She creates her own line of precious metals bracelets. Diane lives in the Deep South with her husband Doc. Together they have created a stepfamily, each having two stepchildren and two birth children, and share three grandchildren, one black lab named Charlie and one long haired tabby cat named Lil Girl. Diane’s passion is to encourage women to be all God has created them to be by pressing past fear and daring to live life as an adventure. Some of her life adventures include traveling to Israel, speaking, entrepreneurship and backyard farming with Doc. She loves Gumbo, fried shrimp and seeing all sunsets across water.

Latest posts by Diane W. Bailey (see all)

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This