She was a thirty-something, the mom of seven, tolerating with a smile the extra children and teens running through her kitchen, and I was sixteen when we first met. She mentored me at times with advice about womanhood, and I taught her the latest dances.

That was close to thirty years ago.

Today, I walk into her bedroom and her husband motions me closer. An enemy I cannot see has ravaged her body and will soon take her from us.



Sitting gently beside her, I take her hand in mine. Her eyes flutter wide and a smile rises on her face. “I’m going to be okay.”

Her voice is as bright as her smile, but her hand involuntarily trembles in mine.

Have you seen this? And, before I can respond, she unsnaps the front her floral cotton gown. I brace myself to see her scars.



We all have scars, silvered with time. You cannot transverse this life without receiving a few. With time, they fade to a silver shimmer but they never go away completely.


What do you do with your scars?


Today, I’m writing for Allume and we are talking about authenticity and sharing your scar stories.  Would you join me over here?  I want to hear your scar story.


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Diane W. Bailey is the founder of The Consilium – an online community of wisdom and purpose for women over 45 years of age. She is a published author. Her books include String of Pearls – From Tears to Treasure, and 30 Days To A Better Stepfamily. She creates her own line of precious metals bracelets. Diane lives in the Deep South with her husband Doc. Together they have created a stepfamily, each having two stepchildren and two birth children, and share three grandchildren, one black lab named Charlie and one long haired tabby cat named Lil Girl. Diane’s passion is to encourage women to be all God has created them to be by pressing past fear and daring to live life as an adventure. Some of her life adventures include traveling to Israel, speaking, entrepreneurship and backyard farming with Doc. She loves Gumbo, fried shrimp and seeing all sunsets across water.

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