I am a Step-Mom. Statistics suggest, that half of the families in America are stepfamilies.  It boggles the mind, doesn’t it?  Which means most of us find it awkwardly necessary to learn to interact with a former spouse.  During these times insecurity, jealousy, and need for control come rearing their ugly heads, making trouble all around.


From where does jealously come?  It roars wild and beastly at times between ex-wife and current wife like a primal instinct, genetically embedded in our DNA.


We smile and try to act polite while checking out each other’s clothing, and shoes, and hair and makeup.  We try not to look – but we do – and emotions are hiding just under the top layer of epidermis, ready to bleed at the slightest poke.



We have to plan for birthdays, Thanksgiving and Christmas, vacation and spring break together, and inadvertently there is a power struggle.  And the money issue – there is always a money issue.  Not that we have an issue about giving the children anything and everything they need, or, much of what they would like to have…Providing for the children is never an issue.  So why does the issue of money become an issue at all? Power struggle.



That is how it is in a Stepfamily at times.  It is a cupcake made of chocolate, salty tears and bitter herbs, topped with cream cheese icing and sprinkles.  It looks all good and palatable until you have a mouthful; then it is difficult to swallow.



How do we deal with the strange dynamics of begin a stepmother without coming unglued; and, to work as a team for the best results for the children?  Is this even possible?




I’m with Laurie Wallin at her blog Living Power, today.  Have you met Laurie before?   Well clickhere and meet this amazing women!  Won’t you click over here too, and join in our conversation?  Oh, and please leave a comment, I want Laurie to meet all of my awesome friends!_MG_1162

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Diane W. Bailey is the founder of The Consilium – an online community of wisdom and purpose for women over 45 years of age. She is a published author. Her books include String of Pearls – From Tears to Treasure, and 30 Days To A Better Stepfamily. She creates her own line of precious metals bracelets. Diane lives in the Deep South with her husband Doc. Together they have created a stepfamily, each having two stepchildren and two birth children, and share three grandchildren, one black lab named Charlie and one long haired tabby cat named Lil Girl. Diane’s passion is to encourage women to be all God has created them to be by pressing past fear and daring to live life as an adventure. Some of her life adventures include traveling to Israel, speaking, entrepreneurship and backyard farming with Doc. She loves Gumbo, fried shrimp and seeing all sunsets across water.

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