30 Days to a Better Stepfamily – Day 26

I want to share with you some communication that took place between Doc and me early in our marriage.  I have mentioned more than one, that I had a lot of growing up to do to be a stepmother.  In the beginning, I cried…A LOT!  Here is how we tried to lighten it up!


Here is my poem to Doc:


Why am I such a crying Geek?

Why not just stand up and speak?


Are my intentions always so wrong?

Is there more to life than a mourner’s song?


The little things – they make me crazy!

Yet, when I distance myself, I feel I am lazy.


I try to help as a stepmom, or nanny,

Yet, I end up defeated, and look like a …fanny!


Each person in my life is a piece of twine,

They weave my tapestry, my reasons, my rhyme.


Some threads I don’t want, they mess up my view!

But, the contrast in place, accents the hues.


Forgive me for crying and stirring up trouble,

I pray for us peace and love that will double.


Doc’s response to this poem:


So stop all the crying and dry up your tears,

You’ve got kids in the house for fourteen more years.


You’re not a geek, and you’re not crazy; and, one thing’s for sure,

You damn sure not lazy!


Gird up your loins, put your mind at ease,

Occasionally we all suffer from mad cow disease!


Being calmly available, even when not needed,

Just love them and treat them as you want to be treated.


Never expect to be treated as well,

The high expectations will put you in hell.


So, roll with the punches, Christ is your teacher,

That big heart He gave you is your finest feature.


Back off, ladies, he is mine!  Learn to play and laugh in adversity with your spouse; because, he is the one you are left with when all is said and done.


Linking with Sandra Oakley and Emily over at her place Chatting at the Sky

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Diane W. Bailey is the founder of The Consilium – an online community of wisdom and purpose for women over 45 years of age. She is a published author. Her books include String of Pearls – From Tears to Treasure, and 30 Days To A Better Stepfamily. She creates her own line of precious metals bracelets. Diane lives in the Deep South with her husband Doc. Together they have created a stepfamily, each having two stepchildren and two birth children, and share three grandchildren, one black lab named Charlie and one long haired tabby cat named Lil Girl. Diane’s passion is to encourage women to be all God has created them to be by pressing past fear and daring to live life as an adventure. Some of her life adventures include traveling to Israel, speaking, entrepreneurship and backyard farming with Doc. She loves Gumbo, fried shrimp and seeing all sunsets across water.

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